How to challenge your mental health this month!

We ALL have mental health! But, it effects every single one of us differently. Some people may never experience mental health issues whilst other will. But, the reality is one in four people will experience some form of mental health. This statistic is only the number of reported mental health cases. People are out there struggling and don’t ask for help. So, the likelihood is that number will be more. But, you shouldn’t struggle alone! There is help out there to help you challenge your mental health.

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One of my favourite analogies is that when on a plane you are always told if in an emergency and the oxygen masks are released then you should put your own mask on first before helping others. The same goes for your mental health. If you don’t look after your own mental health how can you look after others? Sometimes, you have to put yourself first! Here is how to challenge your mental health this month…

Happiness

I don’t know about you but a massive part of challenging my mental health is working on my happiness. They go hand in hand. When I’m struggling with my mental health, the likelihood is that my happiness levels are low too. But, it doesn’t always have to be like that! By challenging one we can also challenge the other!

The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer up

somebody else up- Mark Twain


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Now, this quote got me thinking and you know what it’s right. Think of a time you have tried to cheer someone up. You’ve also in the process cheered yourself up! So, by applying this quote you can challenge your mental health and change the way your mental health affects you.

Action for Happiness

Action for Happiness offer some great advice, support and resources to enable you to live a happier life. Now, I wouldn’t say I’m a negative Nancy but I’m sure not positive Polly. There is always room to make life happier. I highly recommend checking out their action calendars which they publish each month. Each calendar targets something different. For example, this months calendar is targeted on cheering up others and yourself. It provides you will a challenge each day to help improve your happiness and self-awareness.

My favourite part has to be the special days in the calendar such as Valentines day feature related challenges! The Valentines Day challenge is to tell loved ones why they are so special to you! I love the idea behind this and think it is a great tool for improving happiness. I will be sharing the challenges daily and what I do to complete them on my Instagram and Twitter so please join in!

Stop comparing yourself!

Hold your hands up! I’m pretty sure your guilty of comparing yourself to someone else. But, you aren’t alone! Everyone compares themselves to someone else. It’s just an innate trait. But, you can minimise it. This is a major factor in challenging your mental health, your self-image and self-concept.

No one’s life is perfect and if they claim it is well we all know that isn’t true! Everyday is an opportunity to learn, develop and grow and a massive part of that is making mistakes. You are human, you will make mistakes because you aren’t perfect! But, what actually is perfect?

Having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be

Oxford Dictionaries

Yes, that is the dictionaries definition but itself states having all the required or desirable elements but who decides what them elements are? Us! Perfect is a concept we decide. What may be my definition of perfect will certainly be different from yours!

Everyone is on their own path! I’m pretty sure this world would be crap if it was full of Brooke’s every single person all the same as me. I for one know that would be horrendous. So, why do we compare ourselves.

Yes you may want to look like your idol or favourite celebrity because they are perfect to you. But, are they? They are human like all of us and still have bad skin days and life struggles. The only difference between you and your favourite celebrity is some don’t publicly share their struggles. As a society we are so consumed in having the perfect image and it is seen as a bad thing to have spots, be a certain weight etc. But, why? This is something we all have contributed to and created. But, there is nothing wrong with having spots, weighing a certain amount or living in jogging bottoms. Because, you are you! We create our own definition of perfect and what we think our ideal is so why can’t we be that?

No excuses!

Yes you read that right no excuses! The word no is BANNED! The easiest thing to say when you are struggling is to say no. Whether that’s missing out on social events or day to day life. When I’m struggling with my mental health I’m the first person to say no sorry I can’t do that or come up with some sort of excuse to avoid the situation. Well, it is time that stopped! No more can you miss something because of your mental health. Challenge yourself, push yourself out of your comfort zone and show your mental health you CAN do it. Challenge your mental health! Whether that is going out with your friends for some lunch, going to the cinema or having some time to yourself!

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Sometimes, on bad mental health days coming up with an excuse to avoid a situation is the easy option but in the long term you are just running away from dealing with and challenging your mental health. Take little steps even if it is just going to the local shop you’re taking the little steps to help yourself! Each time try to build up and before you know it you’ll be going out and no longer hiding behind excuses. But, don’t be hard on yourself if some days you can’t do it! That is okay. You can’t be happy every single day of the year. If you was I would be concerned!

How are you going to challenge your mental health?

How being grateful can improve your mental health

You’re thinking surely being grateful can’t affect my mental health that much? Gratitude has a multitude of effects on your mental health. Not only does it affect your outlook on life. But, gratitude has been proven to increase your resilience to recognise the good and everything to be thankful for even in the most traumatic experiences.

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Now, gratitude comes hand in hand with happiness. When one increases so does the other. Through focusing on being grateful it can increases your emotions positively and your mental health. Sometimes, when you are struggling with your mental health it is hard to see what there is in your life to grateful for. Your vision of your world becomes blurred and distorted. But, there is always something to be grateful for in the world! Here is how being grateful can improve your mental health…

Highlighting

The first step is to recognise what you are grateful for. We live in a world that is fast paced and full of competition. It is so easy to forget what we are actually grateful for. Even when you try not to, you take advantage of the life that you have and forget the things that really matter.

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Write, draw or even create a board of gratefulness. It could feature people, items, pets or achievements that you are thankful for. This will help you to highlight everything in your life that you have. Even in the darkest of times there is always something to be grateful for. For example, in the worst events such as for me loosing my auntie to cancer I was grateful for the time we spent together and the lessons she taught me. Without her being a part of my life for that period of time I wouldn’t of become the person I am today.

Therefore, it is key to take a step back and observe your life and realise what you actually have to be appreciative of!

Actions

Now, that you have highlighted what you are grateful for it’s time to act on it. Most things in your life you will be grateful for are things that involve other people. So, show them that you are thankful for what they have done for you. Whether that is simply saying thank you or showing your gratitude through an action.

Some ideas of how to act are:-

  • Thank someone and share with them why you are grateful for them
  • Make time for the people that mean the most to you
  • Show someone why you are thankful for them being a part of your life

Actions speak louder than words

Show people how you are grateful for everything they have done for you. Now, it doesn’t have to be extravagant it could simply be acknowledging the person that has helped you at university or saying thank you and wishing someone a good day who has served you at a shop. Those little acts will not only make you appreciate life but also contribute to that persons day! The fast paced technology driven world we live in means sometimes we forget to take a step backwards and truly recognise and appreciate what you are grateful for!

Positivity

A big part of being grateful is recognising that even the darkest times can highlight the positive. A teacher once told me that there will always be someone better off than you and someone worse so be thankful for where you are and what you have!

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.

– Oprah Winfrey

Like Oprah says by focusing on the positive you will realise you have more than you need. No matter how hard it gets there is always something positive to come out of it. For example, when I lost my auntie my world was shattered I honestly couldn’t cope my mental health spiralled out of control but I learnt that I was lucky to have the life I have. The supportive family and to be able to live.

Next time something happens that seems negative or challenging try to find the positive because no matter how bad it is there will be something positive!

Life

At the end of the day you have to be grateful for the life you have. There will always be someone better than you. But, there will always be someone who is worse. Just remember that! Yes, I lost my auntie there was someone better off than me that didn’t loose their auntie but there was also people worse off than me that have lost all of their family.

Be thankful for your blessings and never doubt your struggles. Don’t ask why it happened, just be thankful for the strength it gave you.

You have this life for a reason so make the most of it! Be grateful, love and laugh.

The science behind being grateful

It’s all good and well me sharing this advice but here is some actual science for you behind gratefulness and mental health. When being grateful it stimulates two parts of the brain. One part which controls are stress levels decreasing them and another which controls feelings of pleasure.

By being grateful and showing gratitude you are actually decreasing your stress levels and positively rewarding your brain= overall happiness!

Ideas of being grateful

Now, I’ve already shared one idea of recognising everything you have to be grateful for. But, here are some other ideas…

  • Memory Jar- All you need is a glass/plastic large jar and some sticky notes! Every week write down something you are appreciative of. It doesn’t matter how big or small it could simply be someone holding a door open for you or you achieved a certain grade. At the end of the year you can go through the jar and see all of the things you have achieved/have in your life that are great!
  • Scrap Book- Scrap book are so affordable and a great way of capturing those special moments. I love printing off pictures of events I’ve attended, holidays, random pictures of me and my family. Whenever, I feel like I’m having a little wobble with my mental health I love looking through it and reminiscing of everything I’ve done and have to be proud of! I love using free prints for printing my photos off!
  • Challenge Sheet- Create a challenge sheet for the month showing how you can be grateful but also sharing your gratitude. For example it could feature acts such as smile at someone or message someone telling them why you are grateful that they are a part of your life.
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I am a woman on a mission to ……

As a woman I think we are powerful forces to be recognised. Throughout history we have struggled but thanks to some amazing women we stand with more rights and stories to tell nowadays. This post is intended to be powerful and uplifting for women. In no way shape or form bashing males! Like our female ancestors, each one had a mission to achieve. From Rosa Parks, who was sick of not being able to sit on the bus, to the Suffragettes who fought for women’s rights! So, why can’t we have a mission? Whether it is great or small, we all have a mission in life! What’s yours?

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The Idea of the Mission

I want to create a little tag from this post in order to empower the amazing women of this world! By sharing what their mission is! No matter what the size of your mission, be it big or small. Because, we all have a mission in life that should be shared and heard!

The rules:-

  1. Tag 5 inspiring women
  2. You must write what your mission is
  3. You may use the image from this post or your own

I’m a woman on a mission to…

“Share my journey of happiness, mental health and life”

Happiness

Firstly, one of my main goals in life is to be happy no matter what is thrown my way. I am all for sharing positivity and adopting a positive mental attitude. I love to share my pursuit of happiness and what that actually means to me.

Happiness is the state of being happy but that state of happiness will be different for everyone. For me, happiness is being surrounded by the people I love the most but for someone else, happiness could be waking up every morning. The world is full of happiness in which we choose to define. Everyone will have different ideas of what is happiness to them! I am learning that my definition of happiness is not inferior to anyone else’s. We all have the right to define it how we want.

As part of my mission I would like to continue to share my pursuit for happiness. A part of this is the realisation that I cannot be happy 100% of the time. Some days will be bad but it’s taking them bad days and seeing the positive in them. For every bad thing there is at least one positive! I think this is the main thing in the pursuit of happiness, acceptance. Once, I learn to accept that life will control to some extent what happens, I just have to try and see the good in everything. Even the rubbish times such as getting a low university grade, I think of everything I’ve learnt from that module. That is a positive!

Mental Health

My mental health is something I have always been open about. But, I want to now share my story in order to help others that may be going through the same struggles as me. With the increasing numbers of people struggling with mental health, I feel it is more than ever important to share my story.

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I’ve spent the past month reflecting how far I have come in terms of my mental health. For example, not being able to leave my parents house as a teen, struggling to cope with everyday life. But, now. I live in my own flat, I’m completing my final year of university and pushing myself everyday. Each and every day I surprise myself. Now, not everyday is great but it’s about the little steps. I do have days when I feel like I’ve regressed but I always remind myself of them days when I couldn’t even leave the house.

I feel like I have a platform to share my mental health journey in the hopes it will help someone else. So, expect way more mental health posts from me sharing what I have learnt about my mental health. Also, how I am managing it day to day life.

Life

Well, what can I say. Life is a roller coaster. There is ups, downs and some bits in the middle. But, mainly it is a journey of learning and development. Now, my life is not super interesting. I am a student living off my loan and documenting my daily struggles, dramas and the fun times. Sometimes, I do wish I had a super exciting life like reality stars. But, then they only show and share a proportion of their life so how do we really know it is so exciting. They are simply selecting the best bits. I’m sure if I only showed the best bits of my life, my life would look great too!

I would like to focus on pushing myself and enjoying life to the max. Learn to balance life and work. Because, one of my biggest struggles! I can never find a happy medium, one always seems to give. Maybe, some crazy antics too. I mean within reason!!! I’ve always wanted to do a zip line. Also, I would love to buy a house too in the future, this is a massive goal of mine.

My main mission in life is to learn that you can’t control what your life is. Instead, you have to sit back and enjoy the ride and take what comes your way! The good, the bad and the ugly! Because, everything happens for a reason, I am a strong believer that things happen to test us and see how we come out of it. So, by finding the positive in every situation and taking what comes your way with a pinch of salt is a must!

I tag…

Sian from the english every girl

Samantha from believe in a miracle

Lucy from Lucy Mary

Rebecca from Rebecca Ellis

Imogen from Imogen Chloe

Don’t forget to tag me girls in your posts so I can read them and keep inspiring other women by sharing what your mission is!

I am a woman on a mission to …

share my journey of happiness, mental health and life

So, what’s your mission?

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